Have you ever stood in the mirror and analyzed the lines on your face, and in your mind you think “if only I was younger like so and so…”? How about standing there looking up and down at your body wondering when gravity suddenly took hold or when in the world did your legs started collecting cottage cheese? We’ve all done it. We’ve all outwardly and secretly compared ourselves to celebrities, the prettiest or most popular girls in school, the super mom who just seems to have enough time in the world to get it ALL done. Perhaps you can allow me to be brutally honest with you for a moment? RUN! STOP IT! IT’S A FREAKING TRAP!
Allow these nuggets of truth to set you free from the trap of comparison:
1. You will never be more beautiful or valuable than you are RIGHT NOW.
Whatever lie you’ve believed before, forget about it. Whatever stupid, rude, insensitive comment someone has spoken over you, your life or spirit, let them go. Whatever bitterness, resentment, anger, jealousy, or hatred you’ve allowed yourself to harbor towards those people or situations, forgive them. You are BEAUTIFUL and powerful beyond measure and can start over fresh today. Do not allow your past to define where your emotions are bound to lead you if you dwell on those things. Your body, your mind and spirit are created for a higher purpose and comparison is the thief of joy. So just stop it.
2. Models are photoshopped and our life is not made of photographs, its a movie.
We all know what bodies look like after having kids, stretch marks and scars are pretty inevitable, and even with diet and exercise and obscene amounts of coconut oil, NO human, supermodels included have perfect bodies. It’s so easy to go on social media, see each snapshot of someone’s “perfect” face, “perfect” boyfriend, “perfect” marriage, “perfect” children, “perfect” 6 pack, “perfect” dinner, “perfect” vacation and think to ourselves, “wow, my life isn’t like that”. The deception that social media has created for our generation forces our minds into a constant whirlwind of comparison if we don’t keep our heart in check. What you’re likely seeing in their snapshot is the culmination of a disheveled battle to get to that perfect photo. Don’t believe the lie that people have it all together because people are imperfect and their lives aren’t made of photographs, they’re made up of a movie.
3. Somethings are just not fair, like genetics, gravity, stretch marks and cellulite.
No matter how much we try, our bodies are all uniquely genetically gifted or not gifted with with ability to fight off gravity, stretch marks and cellulite. Sure, diet and exercise might help us…and natural remedies or potions might promise to hocus pocus us back to perfection but the truth is, there are people and companies in this world who will prey on these insecurities and promise us the moon and stars to make them go away. It will cost you…not only emotionally but where it hurts, in your wallet! Save your pennies to your heart’s content and by all means, try everything you want to try to minimize these effects but make sure your heart isn’t set on instant fixes, and be comfortable enough with who you are and how beautifully and wonderfully made you are to know when to stop. You are not going to find the ingredients to feeling beautiful in a bottle or cream, you will find those ingredients when you know how beautiful you truly are.
In conclusion, I understand this is all easier said than done, but I hope this encourages you to take a look in the mirror and find the valuable and beautiful person you are inside and out and that through time, prayer, and surrounding yourself with women who see these qualities in you, that you will find freedom from comparison.